Gujrat Pakistan: May 2010

Thursday, 27 May 2010

How to End a Short Term Relationship

Have you just started a new relationship and you are already questioning it ?

Here are the few steps you need to follow if you already want to get out of this new relationship

1.Sometimes you start a relationship and you start wondering how you ever got here in the first place. Obvioiusly if you have started dating someone, there must have been reasons for you to get involved : a certain physical attraction, nice moments you spent with this person, and then a kiss, which defines the moment you started a relationship.

2.But here you are, a few days or even weeks into this new relationship and you don't feel comfortable in it. You've already reached the point where you're trying to figure out how to get out of it while not hurting your new partner too much.

3.First thing first : try to make sure you do not want to pursue the relationship. No point in telling your partner you don't feel like going on if you're going to come back begging a few days later. So give yourself a little bit of time to be sure of your feeling.

4.Have you had an argument and are you mad at him/her ? Sometimes people can surprise you and you discover things about them you wouldn't have imagined in the first place. Are those differences incompatible with the way you picture a happy relationship ? If they are, then yes,there is no reason in getting more involved. If these bad feelings have a specific reason, maybe it would be good to talk about it to your partner.

5.But more importantly just trust your feeling because this is the easiest clue to your new relationship's future.If you haven't been together long and you're already bored, less attracted, even annoyed, or if you've realized this is more about friendship than possible love, don't lure yourself into thinking "you can make it work". You won't overcome your first feelings. Trust yourself.

6.How to end a short-term relationship ? Well the same way you would end any relationship.Be honest and straigt-forward. Don't give false excuses but just tell the truth. Il may not be easy because you may fear that your partner won't understant your reasons (after all you don't know him that well) ; but all this is not about rational reasons. It is only about the way you feel. And if you feel there is no chance in this relationship don't apologize for it. You can't make your feelings go away just by listening to apparently sound reasons. Wa have all at some point, left someone who tried to talk us out of it by pointing out the efforts he/she was going to make to adapt to what we wanted. But if someone has to change in the first place so that a relationship could work out, it is definitely a huge sign that you are not meant for each-other. So stand your ground. It's the best you can do for this person, even if he/she can't see it right now. And it's certainly the best you can do for yourself.

7.The last step : and of course as with any relationship, even if you haven't been together a long time, don't think you can go back to a normal friendship straight away. It IS probably the biggest lie we like to tell ourselves to apease the pain that breaking up implies. But give yourselves some time apart to learn how to be together again in a non-sentimental way. If the relationship was short it won't take as long as it might have with a longer one.

Tips
One thing ending a short-term relationship can bring you is to analyze the reasons why you chose to start a relationship with this particular person in the first place. Analyse the circumstances and why you obviously made a mistake because this will give you some indications about what not to do in the future.

Wednesday, 26 May 2010

Historical Places In Gujrat, Pakistan

Historical Places in Gujrat

Many historical places, forts, mosques, castles, buildings, roads, towns are in Gujrat. Some of the famous historical places, found in Gujrat are as under:

Four Main Gates of Old Gujrat:

Gujrat city was constructed in the form of a fort and it had four gates to enter in the city of Gujrat. It was called main Gujrat and now a days it is in the center of Gujrat.

Main Gates of gujrat are:

Shah Daula Gate (Shahdaula Darwaza) in East side of Gujrat
Dhakki Gate (Dhaki Darwaza) in West side of Gujrat
Sheeshiyan Wala Gate (Shishianwala Darwaza) in North side of Gujrat
Shah Faisal Gate (Shah Faisal Darwaza) in South side of Gujrat

These doors/ gates of Gujrat were kept closed in night and in the time of any enemy attack. Above mentioned all four gates are still present, but in very miserable condition. Government of Pakistan and Archeological Department of Punjab Government should take some serious steps to preserve these historical gates in their original shape and design.

It is also said that there were also four small gates of Gujrat.

Gujrat Fort:

Gujrat fort was constructed by Mughal Emperor Jalal ul Din Muhammad Akbar in 1596~97. It is the symbol of Mughal Architecture in Gujrat. It is present in the center of Gujrat City. It was built on a heap to make it prominent and secure.

Baouli Well:

It was a type of deep well which had stairs to go down. Emperor Akbar constructed it near the main building of Gujrat Fort. But with the passage of time it was ruined. It is still present in its demolished state.

Akbari Hammam (Akbar’s Bath):

Royal Hakeems (Doctors) of Akbar suggested the treatment of a disease of Akbar’s wife in a special type of Bath Room. So this special type of Bath Room was built in Gujrat near Gujrat Fort for the Treatment of Akbar’s Wife. Many people still takes bath in this Akbari Hammam to get rid of their many diseases.

There are many other notable ancient buildings in Gujrat City and other towns and villages of Gujrat District.

Graves in Gujrat

Ancient Graves in Gujrat

It is believed and argued by many archeologists and historians that the area of Gujrat is from ancient times. This area is present since the times of Adam and Eva (Hadhrat Adam and Hadhrat Hava). It is also said that after Toofan-e-Nooh (Tsunami of Nuh), the area of Himaliya Mountainsand Kashmir is the first place which came out from water. As the Gujrat is a neighbor district of Kashmir, so it has also very old civilization.

There are graves of different Messengers of Allah, sons of Messengers of Allah and other saints of Islam (Sufis) are found in Gujrat. Some of them are as follows:

Grave of Hadhrat Qanoot (Kanoot): It is the longest grave found in Gujrat. Its length is 70 yards. But its length varied from time to time. Every year, on Urs the length is measured which sometimes is less than 70 yards and sometimes more than 70 yards. This grave is situated in an boundary village of Gujrat, Barrila Sharif. Hadhrat Qanoot was the son of Hadhrat Adam (a.s.) but some people also told that he was the son of Hadhrat Nuh (a.s.)
Grave of Naqeeb Toosh is in Mota Village of Gujrat. AndGrave of Sultan Qainoosh in Manawar Village of Gujrat. They were sons of Hadhrat Yusaf (a.s.).
Grave of Filsanosh in Chhamb and grave of Salwadosh in Deva village of Gujrat. They are the sons of Hadhrat Daoud (a.s.).
Grave of grandson of Hadhrat Yousaf (a.s.) in Shaikh Choghani (Chogani) Gujrat.
There are many other graves, tombs and shrines in Gujrat.

Several books on this topic has been written and published.

Haji M. Zaman Khokhar Advocate has done a lot of research on these ancient graves and wrote a number of books on this topic. He has done tremendous work in this manner.